Remember three things: One, you must be consciously frustrated about the life outside. We are all frustrated, but unconsciously. And whenever we are frustrated unconsciously, we only change objects of desire. But one object exchanged for another will not help you to go in. You remain outside. You change one thing for another, then for another. Because you are frustrated by object A, you substitute your desire by object B. Then you are frustrated by object B, so you go on to C. You go on changing objects because you are only unconsciously frustrated. If you become conscious, then you will not change objects — you will change direction.
The root cause is this desire to get happiness through someone else. You go on changing persons, but this direction is never changed.
When I say, ‘become consciously frustrated’, I mean know well that persons are irrelevant. Unless you change your direction in the search for happiness, nothing is going to happen. When I say, ‘be consciously frustrated’, I mean don’t be frustrated by others — be frustrated by yourself, be frustrated about yourself. Only then does the direction change.
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We are all frustrated by everyone else. The husband is frustrated by the wife, and the wife is frustrated by the husband; the son is frustrated by the father, and the father is frustrated by the son. Everyone is frustrated by others. This is the outgoing mind. Be frustrated with yourself, and then the direction changes: you start to go within. And unless you are frustrated with yourself, there is no possibility for transformation.
The second thing to realise is that whatsoever you are, it is because of you yourself. We say, ‘I am like this because of my destiny, because of the forces of nature, because of heredity, because of environment, because of society. ‘What is important is to remember that whatsoever you are, you are responsible. Society may have played a part and even destiny and childhood also may have played a part, but ultimately, you are responsible. This feeling is the base of all religions.
So the second thing: remember, whatsoever you are — if you are sexual— you are responsible. If you are angry, if you are afraid, if fear is your chief characteristic, then you are responsible. Everything else may have played a part, but only a part and that part also can be played only because you cooperated. And if you destroy your cooperation, this very moment, you will be different. So, the second thing is to be constantly aware that whatsoever you are, you are responsible. Responsibility is the basis of all religious transformation.
And, third, remain perpetually discontent until the light is achieved. Again, that is one of the most basic qualities of a religious mind. Ordinarily, we think that a religious man is a contented man. That is nonsense. He looks contented because he has the discontent of another dimension. He looks contented. He can live in a poor house, he can live in ordinary clothes, he can live naked, or he can live under a tree. He can look contented, not because he is contented with these things, but because, really, his discontent has gone towards other things, and now he cannot be bothered with these things.
He is so discontented with the inner revolution, so discontented hoping for inner light, that he cannot bother about these things. These things have just become peripheral. Really, they don’t mean anything to him. It is not that he is contented — they don’t mean anything, they are irrelevant. They are somewhere on the periphery; he is not concerned. But he lives in deep discontent, in fiery discontent. And only that discontent can lead you inwards.
Remember, it is discontent which leads you outside. If you are not happy with your house, you can make a bigger one. If you are unhappy with your financial position, you can change it. In the outward journey, it is discontent which leads you on and on. The same is the factor in the inward journey also. Be discontented. Unless you achieve light, unless you transcend mind, be discontent, remain so — this is the third point. These three points will help but they are just ‘helps’ or aids. The central thing is meditation. Meditate and with these ‘helps’, you can achieve the inner light.
Courtesy: Speaking Tree