Sadhguru on Love, Love is a Human Emotion

Human beings are capable of love when they are willing. Unfortunately, we want to export everything that is beautiful in our life to heaven and live wantonly on this planet. Love, joy, blissfulness – these are human possibilities.

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Love is a Simple Process

Love is not something to do with someone else. Love is never between two people. It is what happens within you, and what happens within you need not be enslaved to someone else. For 15 to 20 minutes daily, go sit with something that means nothing to you – maybe a tree, or a pebble, or a worm or an insect. After some time, you will find you can look upon it with as much love as you do your wife or husband or your mother or your child. Maybe the worm does not know this. That doesn’t matter. If you can look at everything lovingly, the whole world becomes beautiful in your experience. You realize love is not something that you do; love is the way you are.

If you are life, it is very natural to love. Every human being is capable of love but unfortunately, many have crippled themselves with all kinds of belief systems, opinions, philosophies, ideologies – everything except life.

Love is not imported from heaven

People either profess to love God or believe God loves them. The assumption is that love is a quality that needs to be imported from Heaven. But does anyone really know whether God loves or not? We bow down to whoever created this grand creation – a creation that boggles the mind. We bow down to the creator, but you don’t know whether he is love or joy or peace.

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30 Days – A very heart touching story

Heart Touching Story

Boy and Girl are sitting alone in the park one night

Boy: I guess we are the left overs in this world.

Girl: I think so. All of my friends have boyfriends and we are only the 2 persons left in this world with out any special person in our life .

Boy: Yup I don’t know what to do..

Girl: I know! We’ll play a game..

Boy: What game ?

Girl: i’ll be your girl friend for 30 days and you will be my boy friend…

Boy: That’s a great plan in fact i don’t have nothing to do much this following weeks…

DAY 1: They watch their first movie and they both touched in a romantic film

DAY 4: They went to the beach and have a picnic. Boy and Girl have their quality time together

DAY 12: Boy invited Girl to a circus and they ride on a Horror House….Girl was scared and she touched Boy’s hand but she touched someone else’s hand and they both laughed.

DAY 15: They saw a fortune teller down the road and they asked for their future advice and the fortune teller said: “My darling, Please don’t waste the time of your life. Spend the rest of your time together happily” Then tears flow out from the teller’s eyes.

DAY 20: Girl invited Boy to go to the hill and they saw a meteor.Girl mumbled something.

DAY 28: They sat on the bus and because of a bumpy road Girl gave her first kiss to Boy by accident

DAY 29: 11:37pm Girl and Boy sat in the park where they first decided to play this game.

Boy: I’m tired. Do you want any drinks? I’ll buy you one. I’ll just go down the road.

Girl: Apple Juice that’s all.

Boy: Wait for me.

20 mins later. A stranger approached Girl.

Stranger: Are you a friend of Dat Boy?

Girl: Why yes? What happened?

Stranger: A reckless drunken driver ran over boy and he is critical in the hospital.

11:57pm: The doctor went out of the emergency room and he handed out an apple juice and a letter.

Doctor: We found this in boy’s pocket .

Girl reads the letter and it says: This past few days, I realized. You are really a cute girl and I am really falling for you. Your cherish smile your everything when we played this game. Before this game would end. I would like you to be my girl friend for the rest of my life.

“I love you”

Girl crumples the paper and shouted: “I don’t want you to die. I love you. Remember that night when we saw a meteor, I mumbled something. I mumbled that I wish we would be together forever and never end this game. Please don’t leave me. I love you! You cannot do this to me ”

Then the clock strikes 12 Boy’s heart stopped pumping.

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21 Random Acts Of Kindness

1. Brush the snow off of a strangers car.

2. Buy a coffee for a stranger in advance.

3. Pop a quarter (or several!) in a candy machine.

4. Give you full coffee stamp card to a stranger.

5. Feed someone’s expired parking meter.

6. Ask how someone is doing – and mean it.

7. Stop to chat with a homeless person.

8. While you’re at it, ask if there’s anything you can help with.

9. Reconnect with someone you’ve fallen out with.

10. Give your barista a tip.

11. Donate clothing you don’t wear.

12. Compliment someone you normally don’t get along with.

13. Post this on a telephone pole or bulletin board.

14. Invite someone who lives alone over for dinner.

15. Leave an anonymous gift for a coworker.

16. Donate to your local animal shelter.

17. Volunteer your time with an organization you believe in.

18. Join The Toy Society.

19. Pick up trash at the neighborhood park.

20. Put together toiletry care packages for the women’s shelter.

21. Thank someone who deserves it.

The Art of Allowing

The ego wants to know and control every circumstance, situation and outcome in your world. However, the ego has always been shown it has little control over the universe and your circumstances. Even though this has been proven to you time and time again you still choose to delude yourself into believing that you have all the reigns.

The Art of Allowing
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Pain in Your World

This leads to much pain in your world as once again you have created an ‘expectation’ to receive via certain means and methods, limiting yourself to your sole perception and then being upset when this is not met. What if the universe has such a grandular vision for you, that you can’t even comprehend from your current state of awareness and vantage point?

Level of Expectation

You are limited by your level of expectation and the universe will always show you differently. You may be less than satisfied with how certain circumstances and events turn out in your world. You may even try pointing fingers looking for places to attribute this sudden ‘change’ of direction. Failing to comprehend that it is all part of your ‘divine plan’.

Let go of being attached to outcomes and just enjoy the ride, where ever it takes you. Trust that the universe has truly got you and everything is for your highest good. Allow yourself to receive, that which you did not expect or ponder, open yourself to the limitless potential the multiverses is waiting to deliver to you.

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10 Best Buddha Quotes

It doesn’t matter what religion you practice, what your background is or where you stand in life. Buddha created and inspired generations of people to be their best selves, no matter where they came from.

Some of his sayings are the most intelligent in the world and incredibly life-changing. By understanding and analyzing his work, he can teach us so much about how to live our lives to the fullest.

“All wrong-doing arises because of mind. If mind is transformed can wrong-doing remain?”

We must change the way we think about things in order for them to be better. If our thought process changes, so will our lives.


“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything.”

It’s just like the old saying, we are what we think we are. We can’t expect to be good if we don’t think we are. We can’t expect to succeed in life if secretly, deep down inside, we truly believe we can’t. When our beliefs about ourselves change, so do our outcomes.


“To conquer oneself is a greater task than conquering others”

It is more difficult to figure out where we are going in life than it is to figure out someone else. It is the most rewarding task because of how great the challenge is. The path to discovering ourselves will be the hardest path we have to pave, but it will also lead us to be the best we can be.


“What we think, we become.”

The people who stay put in life are the people who believed that was where they would end up. If you dream big, big things happen, no matter how crazy people tell you that you are. We can become anything, as long as we think it.


“Your work is to discover your work and then with all your heart to give yourself to it.”

If the work you are doing doesn’t make you want to wake up every morning, then it’s time to find new work. There are only so many days in our lives to do what we love to do.


“The whole secret of existence is to have no fear. Never fear what will become of you, depend on no one. Only the moment you reject all help are you freed.”

Some people have fear that gets in the way of their dreams. They have a bucket list of things that have never been completed because they fear what others may think. When you clear the fear from your mind, life will be more open to you.


“You cannot travel the path until you have become the path itself”

There is no way to go further in life if you are unwilling to give it your all. You must pave your own path to know the path that is xcbest. You cannot follow someone else’s path because you have not created it.


“The only real failure in life is not to be true to the best one knows.”

Some hide in fear of what others may think of them because of what society tells them. Those who are not afraid of themselves are not afraid of anything. Express your feelings, follow what moves you and never be afraid to be you.


“You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.”

Those who live in jealousy and hate will eventually fall to it. If you let go of the past, there is less to worry about. Don’t be upset with things you cannot control. For those things that you can control take the time to acknowledge your anger and move on from it.


“Even death is not to be feared by one who has lived wisely.”

If you live every day to the fullest, you will not be afraid to die tomorrow. If this isn’t the way you feel every day when you wake up, you must make a change to your life. Those who are not afraid to die are those who have learned to live.

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The Pain Of Being In Love With Someone Who Will Never Love You Back

Love is the best teacher. From it, you will learn more than you could possibly ever learn in a classroom or from a book. The reason for this is rather simple — we feel more when we’re in love.

Human beings learn through their senses as well as through the way they process and interpret the information taken in by those senses.

When we find ourselves in love, the chemicals released by our brains paired with the emotional sensations we experience allow us to experience life in hyper drive. We feel more alive and take in more of the world around us.

Being in love is the greatest high on the planet. It’s the most natural of highs, as it’s produced by our own bodies, as well as being the longest lasting high on the planet.

It increases our senses and allows us to both take in more information and process that information under a more positive light.

Our imaginations tend to get the best of us when we’re in love, creating alternative realities where our fantasies are born. Love helps us both focus more on the world around us while basically forcing us to spend more time in our own heads.

Until you fall in love, you don’t know what it means to live. Well, to be more exact, until you fall in love and have your heart broken, you don’t know what it means to live. Furthermore, until you have your heart broken, you won’t understand what it means to truly love.

As human beings, we learn best from loss. We come to understand the importance and value of both people and things, by losing them.

Sure, we can imagine how it must feel to lose a person we love, but until we actually lose, or are at risk of losing, this person, we never fully understand how important he or she is to us.

We learn by losing. We learn when we are beaten by others, when our best efforts aren’t good enough, when we don’t make the cut, and when we fail. Success is no teacher. In fact, success can often do more harm than good — especially when it wasn’t worked for or earned.

But loss… when you lose something, you instantly become aware of the now vacant space in your life that was once filled with something beautiful — even if that something beautiful was only the dream of having that which you now know you won’t have. And it hurts.

Love can teach you just about everything you need to know about life. For example, it can teach you that sometimes no matter how much you love a person, that person simply won’t love you back.

It can teach you that there are many levels to loving and that each and every person loves a little differently. It can also teach you that sometimes you have no choice but to love someone who will never love you as much as you love him or her.

We often talk about unconditional love, as if it were a real thing. The truth is that there is no such thing as unconditional love; we all love conditionally. However, having someone love you back is not one of those necessary conditions.

In fact, we often fall in love and continue to love those who don’t love us back as passionately. We all love that which we can’t have, and if we find someone that doesn’t want us it only makes us more desperate to have that someone.

That’s a bitch, ain’t it? You fall in love with someone who doesn’t love you back and knowing he or she is trying to push you away only makes you want to latch on tighter. The more that person tells you he or she doesn’t want you, the more your imagination concocts ways of making that person fall for you.

I speak from experience… as people, we are capable of chasing the person we are in love with for years and years on end to no avail. Every time we are turned down, we fall in love a little deeper. Or so we think.

Most of us have a difficult time distinguishing between romantic love and love itself. Romantic love is more a sort of obsession than it is anything else, and it’s romantic love that makes us want that which we can’t have.

Romantic love is what turns our imaginations on high and makes it impossible to start thinking about that one special person. The best part of it all is that we love being in love romantically, no matter how much it hurts.

Being in love with someone who will never love you as much as you love him or her shakes you to your core, but you love it. Don’t get me wrong, it hurts. It hurts a whole lot. At the same time, it makes you feel more alive. It makes you feel more “in the moment.”

It opens you up to a side of life and a side of yourself that you didn’t previously know existed. It’s the sort of pain that you never forget, but at the same time look back at with a sort of fondness and sense of nostalgia.

There’s a fine line between pain and pleasure. Romantic love walks that line.

Courtesy: Elite Daily

10 Happiness Tips for People Who Have Been Hurt

Peace

“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.” ~Unknown

Maybe someone hurt you physically or emotionally. Maybe you’ve survived something else traumatic—a natural disaster, a fire, an armed robbery. Or maybe you’ve just come out of a trying situation, and though you know you’ll eventually recover, you still feel pain that seems unbearable.

Whatever the case may be, you’ve been scarred and you carry it with you through many of your days.

Most of us can relate on some level to that feeling. Even people who excel at taking personal responsibility have at least one story of having been hurt. Though some of us have endured more serious situations, you really can’t quantify or compare emotional pain.

To a teenager who just had her heart broken, the pain really seems like the end of the world. In fact, Live strong estimates that every 100 minutes, a teenager commits suicide—and that the number of suicides in high-income families is the same as in poor families.

Presumably, not all of those teens have suffered incomprehensible tragedies. What they have in common is pain, born from different adversities and circumstances.

When you’re hurting some people might tell you to “suck it up and deal,” as if that’s a valid solution. They may say “it’s all in your head” and assume that reasons away the pain. But none of that will help you heal and find happiness from moment to moment.

Like everyone, I’ve been hurt, in both profound and trivial ways. I’ve dealt with it using the following ideas:

1. Define your pain.

It’s not always easy to identify and understand what’s hurting you. Some people even stay in abusive relationships because it’s safer than acknowledging their many layers of pain: the low self-esteem that convinces them they deserve abuse, the shame over being treated with such cruelty, and the feeling of desperation that convinces them there’s no real way out.

The first step toward finding happiness after having been hurt is to understand why you were hurt, to get to the root of everything that makes the memories hard.

2. Express that pain.

There’s no guarantee that you’ll be able to communicate how you feel to the person who hurt you; and if you can, there’s no guarantee they’ll respond how you want them to. Say what you need to say anyway. Write in your journal. Write a letter and burn it. Get it all out.

This will help you understand why you’re hurting and what you’ll do in the future to avoid similar pain so you can feel empowered instead of victimized. Research has actually proven that people who focus on lessons learned while journaling find the experience more helpful than people who don’t (focus on lessons).

3. Try to stay in the present.

Reliving the past can be addictive. It gives you the opportunity to do it again and respond differently—to fight back instead of submitting, to speak your mind instead of silencing yourself. It also allows you to possibly understand better. What happened? Where did you go wrong? What should you have done?

In other words, it allows you to torture yourself. Regardless of what you should have done, you can’t do it now. If you have post-traumatic stress disorder, you may need professional help to avoid revisiting the incident. If you don’t, you need sustained effort. Fight the urge to relive the pain. You can’t go back and find happiness there. You can only experience that now.

4. Stop telling the story.

It may seem like another way to understand what happened, or maybe it feels helpful to hear someone say you didn’t do anything wrong and you don’t deserve to hurt. In all reality this just keeps you stuck right where you are: living your life around a memory and giving it power to control you.

No amount of reassurance will change what happened. You can’t find happiness by holding onto a painful story, trying to place in new, brighter light. You can only find happiness when you let it go and make room for something better. You don’t need another person’s permission to let go and feel okay.

5. Forgive yourself.

Maybe you didn’t do anything wrong but you blame yourself. Or maybe you played a role in creating your current situation. Regardless of what happened, you need to realize that what you did is not who you are. And even if you feel immense regret, you deserve to start today without carrying that weight. You deserve a break.

You can either punish yourself and submit to misery, or forgive yourself and create the possibility of happiness. It comes down to whether you decide to dwell or move on. Which do you choose: anger with yourself and prolonged pain, or forgiveness and the potential for peace?

6. Stop playing the blame/victim game.

Maybe you were a victim. Maybe someone did horrible things to you, or you fell into an unfortunate set of circumstances through no fault of your own. It still doesn’t serve you to sit around feeling bad for yourself, blaming other people. In fact, it only holds you back. You can’t feel good if you use this moment to feel bad about another person’s actions.

The only way to experience happiness is to take responsibility for creating it, whether other people made it easy for you or not. You’re not responsible for what happened to you in the past but you’re responsible for your attitude now. Why let someone who hurt you in the past have power over your present?

7. Don’t let the pain become your identity.

If everything you do and all your relationships center around something that hurt you, it will be harder to move on.You may even come to appreciate what that identity gives you: attention, the illusion of understanding, or the warmth of compassion, for example.

You have to consider the possibility there’s a greater sense of happiness in completely releasing your story.That you’d feel better than you can even imagine if you’d stop letting your pain define you. You can have a sad story in your past without building your present around it.

8. Reconnect with who you were before the pain.

It’s not easy to release a pain identity, particularly if you’ve carried it around for a long time. It may help to remember who you were before that experience—or to consider who you might have become if it hadn’t happened.You can still be that person, someone who doesn’t feel bitter or angry so frequently.

If you want to feel and be peaceful and happy, start by identifying what that looks like—what you think about, what you feel, what you do, how you interact with people. Odds are this process will remind you both how you want to be and how you don’t want to be.

9. Focus on things that bring you joy in the moment.

You don’t have to focus on completely letting go of your pain forever; you just have to make room for joy right now. Start simple. What’s something you can enjoy in this moment, regardless of what pain you’ve experienced? Would sitting in the sun bring you joy? Would calling your sister bring you joy?

Don’t think about the totality of the rest of your days. That’s a massive burden to carry—haven’t you hurt enough? Just focus on now, and allow yourself a little peace. You’ll be surprised how easily “nows” can add up when you focus on them as they come.

10. Share that joy with other people.

We often isolate ourselves when we’re hurting because it feels safer than showing people our vulnerability. What we fail to realize is that we don’t have to feel vulnerable all the time. We can choose certain people for support, and then allow ourselves time with others without involving our painful stories.

You can share a meal, a movie, a moment and give yourself a break from your anger or sadness. You don’t have to carry it through every moment of your day. Don’t worry—if you feel you need to remember it, you’ll still be able to recall it later. But as you allow yourself pockets of peace, shared with people you love, you may find you need that story a lot less.

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Everyone deserves to feel happy. Everyone deserves a little peace. One more thing we all have in common: we can only provide those things for ourselves.

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Let Love Be Your Prayer

Somehow, from the very childhood, we are being crippled. Our roots with the heart are cut. We are forced towards the head and we are not allowed to move towards the heart. It is something humanity has suffered for long, a calamity-that man has not yet become capable of living with love.

There are reasons:

Love is risky. To love is to move into danger-because you cannot control it, it is not safe. It is not within your hands. It is unpredictable: where it will lead nobody knows. Whether it will lead anywhere, that too nobody knows. One is moving into utter darkness but roots grow only in darkness. If the roots of a tree become afraid of darkness and don’t move underground, the tree will die. They have to move into darkness. They have to find their way towards the deepest layers of the earth where they can find sources of water, nourishment.

The heart is the darkest part of your being. It is like a dark night. It is your very womb, it is your earth. So people are afraid to move into darkness; they would like to remain in light. At least you can see where you are and what is going to happen. You are safe, secure. When you move in love, you cannot calculate the possibilities, you cannot calculate the results. You cannot be result-oriented. For love, future does not exist, only the present exists. You can be in this moment but you cannot think anything about the next moment. No planning is possible in love.

The society, civilization, culture, church, all force a small child to be more logical. They try to focus his energies in the head. Once the energies are focused in the head, it becomes very difficult to fall towards the heart. In fact, every child is born with great love energy. The child is born out of love energy. The child is full of love, trust. Have you looked into the eyes of a small child?-how trusting. The child can trust anything: the child can play with a snake, the child can go with anybody. The child can move so close to a fire that it can become dangerous-because the child has not yet learned how to doubt. So we teach doubt, we teach skepticism, we teach logic. These seem to be measures for survival. We teach fear, we teach caution, we teach prudence, and all these together kill the possibility of love.

Courtesy: OshoTimes Blog Osho