Overcoming Procrastination and Causes of Procrastination

Overcoming Procrastination is very easy, but it’s a long way. Procrastination MeaningProcrastination is the avoidance of doing a task which needs to be accomplished. It is the practice of doing more pleasurable things in place of less pleasurable ones, or carrying out less urgent tasks instead of more urgent ones.

Most people do not regard procrastination as a major emotional disturbance. That is because it doesn’t hurt at once. That movie you went to may have been a lot of fun but you didn’t get your term paper finished. Now you have to burn the midnight oil, do a poor job of it and hastily submit an inferior product. So your grades suffer, your career suffers. Perhaps, if you make a habit of this, you’ll even drop out of school and alter the whole direction of your life.

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Overcoming Procrastination in Three Simple Steps

Procrastination will drive you to different roads away from your destination. Every silly whim you get will drive you off into a new direction and you will forget what you are about. How can you conceivably travel from one point to another if you are going to be sidetracked every time you see something interesting along the road? If you know where you are going, and you discipline yourself to stick to the task, you are likely to reach your goal.

  1. Face Difficult Tasks: It is easier to face difficult tasks than to avoid them. Very seldom times does time simply cure a bad situation if you do nothing about it. Your dishes don’t get done because you watch television. In short, if something is difficult to do, it is easier to do it than not to do it at all.
  2. It is More Important to Do than to Do well: If you believe (as most of us have been taught) that if anything is worth doing, do it well, or if you can’t do it right, don’t do it at all. For example, if the baby doesn’t walk well, should the baby stop walking at all? Practically speaking, everything you’ve ever done you did badly at the first time. You got better only because you kept doing it badly for a long time.
  3. Breaking a Big Task into Small ones: How many times did you find yourself getting bored with what you were doing? Probably a lot of times. That is because you feel you don’t have enough time to do it. This happens because  you don’t take a big task and reduce it to a series of smaller tasks. If you did you would be able to do a great deal.

Source: Complex Realities

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Being You No Matter What

Syed Usman Being You No Matter What

There are times in your life when you must paste on the smile.  You nod your head politely and have no idea what the conversation is even about.  I have been through many of those moments.  This last year has been an extraordinary journey for me.  I have learned many valuable lessons.  The biggest one of all, the one that can make or break you, is the realization that it’s okay to be “not okay” during your life.  You do not have to have it all figured out.

It is okay to say I am going to take a break from this.  It is not failure until you quit.  It is okay to let people be disappointed in you.  That is their expectation of you, not yours.  Your success is not tied to anyone.  Period.  I have disappointed many people in my life, I’m sure.  Because they saw a vision of how my life should be.  I sold my first house to the amazement of others and bought an older home surrounded by wonderful trees, near water, and a nature trail.  People I knew thought we had lost our minds buying this old house.  I downsized.  OMG.  Less?  How dare I live with less.  As I look out my window now, all the leaves are brilliant and beautiful.  I call my old friend and we go for walks on the trail near my house.  I no longer live next to an airport.  You would have thought I moved half-way across the universe.  Seriously.

I have been writing almost everyday.  I am a writer.  I know it amazes some and confuses others.  It’s my J.O.B. now and I am currently not getting paid for it.  It doesn’t mean I will never make any money ever again.  No, it doesn’t.  But it means I am doing something for me.  Not for anyone else.  And I like it.  I can volunteer at my children’s schools now, and pop in when needed.  I can work the school store, and actually go to the store.  The benefits are amazing.  They are hugs, kisses, and meeting tiny people at the bus.  I no longer have the latest clothes…it’s okay.  Yoga pants are all the clothes I need anyway.  They are awesome.

So during this time, I have not had it all figured out.  But I have come to the conclusion that if we are honest with ourselves, and our friends, the ones who matter will still be here after I get finished with this process.  If they are gone, they were not willing to be part of my life.  That is not mean, negative or spiteful.  It is the truth.  It took me long enough to figure this out.

So the next time you are having problems, like one of my closest friends says, “It’s okay to not be okay.”  Life will go on, just remember to pick yourself back up and keep going.

Original Text: The Wellness Universe

The Inner Voice Talks Sense

Listen to your Heart Quotes

The universe doesn’t play tricks because what you love and what God wills for you is the same.

“There’s a voice within that is always speaking to us. But most people, out of fear -false evidence appearing real -push it away, and settle for mediocrity or a job they don’t mind. They let go of things that have the greatest meaning for them.

Love yourself. It works

When you have the courage to say -not only to yourself but to others -that this is what you stand for, care about and love, the wonderful qualities of self-worth come into play.

Play the appreciation game

It’s simple, really. Be grateful for everything you have, from your home to your well-paying job, to your loving parents and supportive friends. Each time you feel down, thank aloud for the things that are going right in your life. You’ll realize how your inner energy gets a big boost.

Aim for clarity

Gratitude brings with it immense clarity. And when you are clear, what you want will play out in your life, and only to the extent you are clear. So after playing the appreciation game with yourself, take some time out and figure what you love and have a passion for. It could be simple, sound trivial. No problem. Just make sure it’s your true passion. For this, be yourself and be clear about what you want.

Say it out aloud to yourself: this is what I need, this is what I want, and this is what I care about.

Follow habits of success

Review your top passions every day

Take responsibility for the life you have created. Make time to pray meditate. Eat healthy food. It supports clarity. “Lastly, whenever you are faced with a choice, a decision or an opportunity chose in favor of your passions.

10 Best Buddha Quotes

It doesn’t matter what religion you practice, what your background is or where you stand in life. Buddha created and inspired generations of people to be their best selves, no matter where they came from.

Some of his sayings are the most intelligent in the world and incredibly life-changing. By understanding and analyzing his work, he can teach us so much about how to live our lives to the fullest.

“All wrong-doing arises because of mind. If mind is transformed can wrong-doing remain?”

We must change the way we think about things in order for them to be better. If our thought process changes, so will our lives.


“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything.”

It’s just like the old saying, we are what we think we are. We can’t expect to be good if we don’t think we are. We can’t expect to succeed in life if secretly, deep down inside, we truly believe we can’t. When our beliefs about ourselves change, so do our outcomes.


“To conquer oneself is a greater task than conquering others”

It is more difficult to figure out where we are going in life than it is to figure out someone else. It is the most rewarding task because of how great the challenge is. The path to discovering ourselves will be the hardest path we have to pave, but it will also lead us to be the best we can be.


“What we think, we become.”

The people who stay put in life are the people who believed that was where they would end up. If you dream big, big things happen, no matter how crazy people tell you that you are. We can become anything, as long as we think it.


“Your work is to discover your work and then with all your heart to give yourself to it.”

If the work you are doing doesn’t make you want to wake up every morning, then it’s time to find new work. There are only so many days in our lives to do what we love to do.


“The whole secret of existence is to have no fear. Never fear what will become of you, depend on no one. Only the moment you reject all help are you freed.”

Some people have fear that gets in the way of their dreams. They have a bucket list of things that have never been completed because they fear what others may think. When you clear the fear from your mind, life will be more open to you.


“You cannot travel the path until you have become the path itself”

There is no way to go further in life if you are unwilling to give it your all. You must pave your own path to know the path that is xcbest. You cannot follow someone else’s path because you have not created it.


“The only real failure in life is not to be true to the best one knows.”

Some hide in fear of what others may think of them because of what society tells them. Those who are not afraid of themselves are not afraid of anything. Express your feelings, follow what moves you and never be afraid to be you.


“You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.”

Those who live in jealousy and hate will eventually fall to it. If you let go of the past, there is less to worry about. Don’t be upset with things you cannot control. For those things that you can control take the time to acknowledge your anger and move on from it.


“Even death is not to be feared by one who has lived wisely.”

If you live every day to the fullest, you will not be afraid to die tomorrow. If this isn’t the way you feel every day when you wake up, you must make a change to your life. Those who are not afraid to die are those who have learned to live.

Courtesy: Elite Daily

The Beauty And Pain Of Falling In Love With The Right Person At The Wrong Time

The Beauty And Pain Of Falling In Love With The Right Person At The Wrong Time

When I was about 18, I met a girl who changed my life. She opened my eyes to a part of the world – a part of life – that I didn’t know existed.

This was the first time that I ever fell in love, and it was the deepest I have ever fallen in love. The frequency and intensity with which I felt, anything, was something I didn’t believe possible – I honestly didn’t know that a person could feel so incredibly happy and horribly miserable.

Finding the right person, a person you want to spend your life with, is the greatest accomplishment one can achieve. Yet, the unfortunate truth is that the right person doesn’t always come at the right time. And that makes all the difference.

You’re not guaranteed to find the right person at the wrong time, but it can happen. I’m living proof. I understand you may be thinking that if you met the right person, the person you loved with all your soul, things would just work out.

We see it in all the movies. Boy meets girl. Boy and girl fall in love. And they live happily ever after – roll credits. How wonderful it would be if the world were so simple.

In reality, human beings are emotionally complicated and because we’re so emotionally complicated, we manage to make situations complicated. Even if you do find the right person, if you aren’t the right person you yourself need to be, the relationship will fail.

Relationships don’t only fail because the person you’re with turns out to be the wrong person; they also fail when you yourself aren’t yet the person you need to be. If you aren’t yet capable of being in a loving relationship then the two of you are doomed.

You will most likely implode emotionally and take it out on the person you love. This goes for the person you love as well – if this person isn’t at the point in life where he or she can be a loving and devoted partner, the relationship won’t work either. There are so many ways a relationship can fail, it’s amazing that we aren’t all alone.

Many people will make excuses for why they aren’t in a place in their lives that’s conducive to a healthy relationship. Many will argue that they need to focus on their careers. Some will argue that they still want to explore life and spend more time flying solo before settling down.

Others will even convince themselves that the love they’ve felt for so long wasn’t true love. They will twist their emotions and memories to make themselves believe that it was more of an illusion than anything else, a dream they need to wake up from. Yet, these are all excuses that veil the truth.

The honest truth is that whether you can admit it to yourself or not, you are not capable of loving – not the way the other person needs to be loved. We should only allow ourselves to settle for one sort of love. The sort of love that is all-consuming, intoxicating, passionate and, at the same time calm, collected, caring and supportive.

We should only settle for a love that embodies the definition in its purest form: to love fully, deeply and selflessly – or rather, as selflessly as humanly possible. I’m not talking about the love of fairytales. I’m talking about the most ideal love that people can possibly be a part of.

Now, the problem when you do find the right person is that you may not yet be willing to give up a part of yourself – because that is what you’re going to have to do.

You are surrendering a part of yourself to your lover. You are giving up on certain things, making concessions and compromises in order to give yourself to the other person. You are devoting a chunk of your life, your thoughts, your dreams and your future to them.

The deepest, purest love is the love shared when both individuals give a piece of themselves to the other, but not entirely without expectation. We may not command anything in return, but because we are only human, we expect our love to be reciprocated.

More so, because we do love our partners, we want them to have the love that they deserve. So what do you do when you love a person knowing you cannot be the person he or she needs you to be?

What do you do when you find the right person, but cannot love that person the way he or she deserves to be loved? If we aren’t willing to make the tradeoffs then there is really only one thing you can do… you have to let that person go.

Letting a person you love go is the most difficult decision you can make in your life. The worst part is that the longer you are apart, the more you come to realize how difficult it is – the more you realize how much you actually love that person.

I haven’t seen or spoken to that girl I met nearly a decade ago in years. And I still know that a part of me does, and always will, love her. Thinking about a person every day of your life that you know you will never be with is a hell of its own. But it’s okay.

It’s okay because it is a part of life. It’s a learning experience like no other. Some of you will fall in love with the right person to find that it is the right time. But some of you will go through what I go through.

I just hope that you have the strength to keep going, not to give up on yourself. You may have had to give up on your relationship with that person, but you can find love again.

You have to believe that you can because it is possible. It is possible to find another right person and to find him or her at the right point in your life. It’s happened to many and will happen to many more. I have to believe that it will happen for me just as you have to believe it will happen for you.

There is no worse way to live life than to live it while giving up on the prospect of love. Love is the only purpose worth living for.

Courtesy: Elite Daily

Why You Should Never Trust Someone Who’s Too Nice

Why You Should Never Trust Someone Who’s Too Nice

Personally, I would never trust anyone who’s overly nice. I don’t want to tell anyone what to do, or whom to trust, but that’s just how I feel. I mean, think about it. Is anybody ever really that nice or that happy without having ulterior motives?

There are times in life that are just genuinely sh*tty. If they don’t faze you, I start to question what you could possibly be hiding. And you know exactly the type of people I’m referring to.

You’ll be standing on a packed 7 train in the middle August, like a sweat-infused tin of sardines, with fluid from the air conditioning dripping on your forehead like new age Chinese water torture.

You can sense everyone standing in your vicinity rolling their eyes, except one middle-aged man, who’s inexplicably grinning from ear-to-ear. As if he’s amused.

Just visualize that. You can’t help but start to question his ulterior motives. Anger and aggression are essential human qualities, and while they might be a bitch to deal with when regarding your roommate or mother, they’re vital to the whole mind-body connection.

When you’re missing one of these traits, or are overly abundant in another, like kindness, the whole “recipe” becomes unbalanced. Think of someone who’s overly nice as, like, an overly sweet piece of cheesecake.

Sure, after your first bite, you think you’re indulging in the finest wedge of cake you’ve ever encountered. However, by about bite three, you realize the cake is TOO sweet and really just makes you nauseated. This same type of thing happens with people who are TOO nice.

After a while, sweetness gets old, and you want realness instead. While nice people are fantastic individuals, it doesn’t mean they’re always trustworthy. Confusing kindness for honesty can be a fatal error. I’ll explain.

You DEFINITELY shouldn’t trust anyone who’s overly nice regarding anything fashion. I’ll explain. It was the first day of 5th grade, and to be honest, I was just super stoked about starting middle school.

Middle school was big-doing, back in the day, take it from me. You went from tables in elementary school to desks, cubbies to lockers, cooties to making out with girls. To say the least, I was feeling myself.

I remember the scene perfectly. I ran into the kitchen and yelled, “HEY MA, HOW DO I LOOK?” She told me “like the most handsome boy I’ve ever seen,” and with that, I jumped on the bus, hoping for a magical start to my middle school career.

Literally speaking, though. That was the issue. It was during my big “Harry Potter” phase, which aptly preceded my “first rebellious phase,” and I was dressed like a student of Hogwarts Academy. OBVIOUSLY, my wizard looking ass got damn near laughed off the bus.

Truly, my mom was only trying to be nice though, by telling me I looked handsome as opposed to suggesting I go upstairs and put on a basketball jersey. However, if she didn’t worry so much about hurting my feelings – within the privacy of our own kitchen – she would’ve saved me years of humiliation among my peers.

My mother is a saint, but let’s be real, after that day I knew I couldn’t trust her fashion sense. Not in a bad way, just because I didn’t know if she was keeping it a stack with the boy. That’s the main take home point here.

In life, a lot of the times, hearing the truth sucks. Whether it be pertaining to the girlfriend or boyfriend that you’ve been suspecting is cheating or waiting for the results of some test you didn’t really prepare for. Hence, if you want the truth – try to avoid people who are considered “nice.”

To help put that in perspective, think of “kindness” and “honesty” as the second cousins of character traits. They’re kind of related, but technically have nothing to do with one another. And that’s the problem with a lot of nice people, they’re afraid to hurt others’ feelings.

Sure, MOST nice people will also be honest – simply because honesty is USUALLY a “nice” trait to exhibit. But not always.

A lot of nice people WON’T be honest in an attempt to uphold their kindness. However, I remind you, white lies are still lies. And they can end up causing a lot more issues than plain old honesty, and a touch of chutzpah.

If you want the truth, find an assh*le. They’ll always tell it straight.

Courtesy: Elite Daily

3 Necessary Keys To Unlocking Your Own Personal Sense Of Greatness

3 Necessary Keys To Unlocking Your Own Personal Sense Of GreatnessSome people are born with natural talent. Others must work day in and day out to attain theirs. But, no matter from which angle you look at it, you can’t be great at everything you do. However, you can absolutely bring greatness into your life. This leaves us with two questions: What is greatness? How can greatness be achieved?

From a young age, I was quite ambitious. My parents did the best they could with what they had, but I always strived for something more. I desired fame, glory and success.

So, it was quite the reality check when I discovered that I couldn’t simply walk into a company and snatch an executive’s job. At least I had an imagination.

My second reality check happened when I saw my colleagues, some of whom couldn’t hold an intellectual conversation, triple my income. With that, I decided to enslave myself to my work… Boom! For a whole week, I did better than 97 percent of the company.

And then, the next week, I was back to average. It made me realize that there are some things in life (from jobs to relationships) that will only win you so much. You simply won’t be the best at some things and, at times, you will most definitely fail.

But, if you’re doing something for you, you will learn from your experiences and that is the mark of true success. Each and every person in the world has the ability to do more than what anyone else could ever imagine.

Although each person must find a personal sense of greatness, these three keys will help open the door in finding yours:

Persistence

Some days, you will want to quit. You will feel pain and decreased self-esteem. Those times in our lives can really suck. Those times can take so much out of you when you’re consistently working toward a goal and not reaching it, so instead of giving up, why not pause and celebrate your small successes?

Don’t let the difficult times guide your life. Be keen with your senses, listen to others and take what you learn to your future experiences. Never stop moving forward in your life.


Willingness To Fail

Why are you here? It took a long ride, full of trials and tribulations, for me to comprehend that I simply won’t be the best at everything I do. But, the fact that I can willingly give something my all — even if I know I may fail or be average — is notable.

Define what you are doing and why you’re doing it. Remind yourself of this every single day. Follow this by reassuring yourself that if you fail, you will continue to try. It may be uncomfortable and painful for you to deal with, but you can learn something, no matter whether you succeed or fail.

Our willingness to find greatness can never be greater than our willingness to fail. Don’t give up on yourself. If you quit, you’ll never know what could’ve been.


Vulnerability

Each time we go into an experience with our vulnerable selves, we leave the door open to opportunity. Be ready to give your all and accept even more in return. Closed minds create small results. Open minds create endless possibilities.

We convince ourselves that pain is so unbearable that we should never feel it. We protect ourselves from letting anything in — good or bad. I can’t tell you that everything in your life will feel good, but I can tell you that, in the long run, it will always be worth it.


Bring On The Greatness

Greatness is finding love within yourself and being able to pour your heart into something with acceptance that you may fail.

If your heart is in something for the wrong reason, you may never find fulfillment. I’ve learned that fame, glory and success are conditional side dishes to what I truly want: to feel whole.

So, do you dare to ask the universe for what you desire? You have a choice: pursue what you don’t want or work toward what you might love.

If you give something your all, you may fail catastrophically, but you also may open up your life to some magnitude of greatness. Bottom line: Be vulnerable, be persistent and be ready to fail.

Courtesy: Elite Daily

Be Discontent With Yourself

Remember three things: One, you must be consciously frustrated about the life outside. We are all frustrated, but unconsciously. And whenever we are frustrated unconsciously, we only change objects of desire. But one object exchanged for another will not help you to go in. You remain outside. You change one thing for another, then for another. Because you are frustrated by object A, you substitute your desire by object B. Then you are frustrated by object B, so you go on to C. You go on changing objects because you are only unconsciously frustrated. If you become conscious, then you will not change objects — you will change direction.

The root cause is this desire to get happiness through someone else. You go on changing persons, but this direction is never changed.

When I say, ‘become consciously frustrated’, I mean know well that persons are irrelevant. Unless you change your direction in the search for happiness, nothing is going to happen. When I say, ‘be consciously frustrated’, I mean don’t be frustrated by others — be frustrated by yourself, be frustrated about yourself. Only then does the direction change.

Way To Change

We are all frustrated by everyone else. The husband is frustrated by the wife, and the wife is frustrated by the husband; the son is frustrated by the father, and the father is frustrated by the son. Everyone is frustrated by others. This is the outgoing mind. Be frustrated with yourself, and then the direction changes: you start to go within. And unless you are frustrated with yourself, there is no possibility for transformation.

The second thing to realise is that whatsoever you are, it is because of you yourself. We say, ‘I am like this because of my destiny, because of the forces of nature, because of heredity, because of environment, because of society. ‘What is important is to remember that whatsoever you are, you are responsible. Society may have played a part and even destiny and childhood also may have played a part, but ultimately, you are responsible. This feeling is the base of all religions.

So the second thing: remember, whatsoever you are — if you are sexual— you are responsible. If you are angry, if you are afraid, if fear is your chief characteristic, then you are responsible. Everything else may have played a part, but only a part and that part also can be played only because you cooperated. And if you destroy your cooperation, this very moment, you will be different. So, the second thing is to be constantly aware that whatsoever you are, you are responsible. Responsibility is the basis of all religious transformation.

And, third, remain perpetually discontent until the light is achieved. Again, that is one of the most basic qualities of a religious mind. Ordinarily, we think that a religious man is a contented man. That is nonsense. He looks contented because he has the discontent of another dimension. He looks contented. He can live in a poor house, he can live in ordinary clothes, he can live naked, or he can live under a tree. He can look contented, not because he is contented with these things, but because, really, his discontent has gone towards other things, and now he cannot be bothered with these things.

He is so discontented with the inner revolution, so discontented hoping for inner light, that he cannot bother about these things. These things have just become peripheral. Really, they don’t mean anything to him. It is not that he is contented — they don’t mean anything, they are irrelevant. They are somewhere on the periphery; he is not concerned. But he lives in deep discontent, in fiery discontent. And only that discontent can lead you inwards.

Remember, it is discontent which leads you outside. If you are not happy with your house, you can make a bigger one. If you are unhappy with your financial position, you can change it. In the outward journey, it is discontent which leads you on and on. The same is the factor in the inward journey also. Be discontented. Unless you achieve light, unless you transcend mind, be discontent, remain so — this is the third point. These three points will help but they are just ‘helps’ or aids. The central thing is meditation. Meditate and with these ‘helps’, you can achieve the inner light.

Courtesy: Speaking Tree