Another important point is that an angry person thinks himself to be very great. Pride is hidden in the folds of his anger. When he is angry at someone, his intention is to degrade that person and prove his own greatness. When anger arises in him, look at his face or put a mirror in front of him and tell him to see for himself, or record his angered voice on a tape and let him listen to it. A human being never realizes his own illnesses, he may say that his anger is for the sake of Allah, but this assumption of his can never be reliable. He should have it tested by a spiritual guide who has far sightedness, and will tell him if his anger is right, but the one who says he is always right, is in fact the wrong one. One who tells his spiritual guide that he does not know anything and that the one who is the target of his anger is such and such, then know that he thinks his spiritual guide to be a fool. Chase such a disciple out of the khanqah (institution of spiritual guidance and reformation) holding him by his ear. In anger, if you have oppressed someone, never be ashamed to ask forgiveness of him. Please him in this world, otherwise you will be sorry on the day of Qiyamah!
Now, listen to what status that person will get who makes amends and has his anger treated. Once Hadhrat Phulpoori (RA) got extremely angry at a person, for though he was a great friend of Allah, he was after all human and it is only human to make mistakes. The person with whom Hadhrat got angry was a villager who was a little backward. His village was about one and a half miles away from Phulpoor to which he returned. After the villager had left, Hadhrat regretted having become so angry at him. He therefore set out for that village after Asr, to ask forgiveness from the villager.
Hadhrat relates that he was so upset over what he had done that he could not think straight and even lost his way. Somehow he searched for the way through the fields and finally reached the village quite late. Hadhrat asked the man to forgive him for the sake of Allah, as he had wronged him. The villager would not agree saying: “You are a great Moulana, and I am an ignorant one. You are like my father and a father has rights upon his son.” Hadhrat said to him: “I don’t know what will happen on the day of Qiyamah, only then will it be known who is small and who is great. Until you do not tell me that you have forgiven me, I will not move from here.” The person then said: “All right, only because you are commanding me, in order to please you, I will say that I have forgiven you, but otherwise you have great rights over me.” Then only did Hadhrat return. On the same night, Hadhrat saw in his dream that Rasulullah Sallallahu alaihi wasallam and Hadhrat Ali (RA) were sitting in a boat, and at a little distance from them, he was sitting alone in another boat. Rasulullah Sallallahu alaihi wasallam commanded Hadhrat Ali (RA) to join Hadhrat’s boat to his Sallallahu alaihi wasallam’s own boat. When Hadhrat Ali (RA) joined them, it made such a beautiful sound, the enjoyment of which Hadhrat was still feeling right upto the time he narrated the dream. Look! What an immense reward was given for humbling oneself and being regretful!
Rasulullah Sallallahu alaihi wasallam has said: “One who sits in the company of the accepted servants of Allah, can never remain wretched. Allah changes his wretchedness into auspiciousness.” There is a lengthy hadith, a part of which is, that a person was passing by the gathering of Allah’s people – he had not come specially for the gathering, but just decided to sit down. Although Allah knows everything, He asked the malaikah what those people were engaged in. At the end of this hadith it is mentioned that Allah calls the malaikah to bear witness and says: “I have forgiven all of them, even the one who sat in the gathering just as he was passing by, because I do not deprive even those who sit near My accepted servants. ” Look! Here in Dera Ghazi Khan, whatever is being prepared for Hadhrat Wala Hardoi Damat Barakatuhu, the same things are being served to everyone else, even his attendants. If this is the condition of worldly bounties, then Insha Allah the same will be the condition in Jannat. If the result of the companionship with the friends of Allah is such that wretchedness changes into piety, and one develops a powerful strength to do good deeds, then what must be the condition of one’s Iman after the companionship of prophethood?
Just by Rasulullah’s Sallallahu alaihi wasallam sight falling on a person, that person becomes a Sahabi, and the world’s greatest wali can never reach the status of any Sahabi. It was thus through the blessing of the company of Rasulullah Sallallahu alaihi wasallam that Hadhrat Abu Mas’ood Radiallahu anhu realized this and said: “O Rasulullah Sallallahu alaihi wasallam, I free this slave for the sake of Allah in lieu of beating him.” Rasulullah Sallallahu alaihi wasallam replied: “If you would not have shown mercy to the slave, the fire of Jahannum would have burnt you to ashes.” Who is this? None other than a Sahabi who has seen Rasululllah Sallallahu alaihi wasallam.
Which oppressor can then say that he performs tahajjud, makes zikr and is a saint, so he will not be punished for his anger? Think and ponder over this fact. We think that just because we perform worship, we have all the right to trouble and oppress our fellow Muslims, our brothers, sisters, wives etc. We think there is no law and order for us. Look! A companion of Allah’s Rasul Sallallahu alaihi wasallam, Abu Mas’ûd Radiallahu Anhu is being warned that had he not shown mercy to his slave, the fire of Jahannum would have been wrapped around him on the day of Qiyamah. Can we be greater than the Sahabi, Abu Mas’ood? If we say that our anger is not harming us, then we are actually trying to claim that our stage is higher than the Sahabi (Na ûzûbillah). My friends! Many people say, “We do not need spiritual guides,” yet, imagine, even a Sahabi like Hadhrat Abu Mas’ood Radiallahu Anhu needs a trainer and guide! When Hadhrat Abu Bakr (RA) who is the most virtuous amongst mankind after the Ambiya (AS), was in need of a guide, he needed a guardian, then who are we to say that we do not need to be guided and reformed
(Tauheed or Tawheed) i.e. belief in one Allah alone is such a strong Faith and foundation of Islam upon which the whole structure of Islam is based. All Prophets have called their people on True Faith. Worship is exclusive right of Allah owed to Him alone. Monotheism is such an important part of Faith that Prophet (P.B.U.H) during the thirteen years of His preaching in Makkah focused on Tauheed (Oneness of Allah) mainly and called people upon Tawheed by forbidding any partners to Allah. The Holy Quran is full of this concept of Monotheism and most of the verses of Holy Quran are about Monotheism.
Marital Relations in Islam
In the Qur’an, verse 34 of Surah an-Nisa (abbreviated as 4:34) concerns the issue of marital relations in Islam. This verse is interpreted by some Muslims as giving women complete control over their own income and property, while obliging men to be responsible for maintaining their female relatives. Muslim scholars say that the word “beating” is used in the verse, but it does not mean “physical abuse”. They hold the view that it is no more than a light touch by siwak, or toothbrush. Some Muslims, such as Islamic feminist groups, argue that Muslim men use the text as an excuse for domestic violence. However, some have translated “beat” as “separate”, as Arabic in its nature is a multi-meaning language, and as such no word has a fixed sole meaning.
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Sense of Morality in Islam
As humans, we have an innate sense of morality. No matter what religion, race or colour we are, certain qualities serve as the moral standard. We admire justice, bravery, honesty and compassion. We abhor those who demonstrate treachery, cruelty or corruption. Moral standards are universal, and one of the most important aspects of Islam is adherence to high moral standards and good manners. Prophet Muhammad. May the mercy and blessings of God be upon him, taught Muslims to have the best manners and personal characteristics. The Prophet’s own high standard of morals and manners made him the best example for Muslims to follow. God said in the Quran:
“And verily you, O Muhammad, are on an exalted standard of character.” (Quran 68:4)
Generosity was among the countless good qualities of the Prophet Muhammad. He was the most generous of people and he used to be most generous in Ramadan.