Overcoming Procrastination and Causes of Procrastination

Overcoming Procrastination is very easy, but it’s a long way. Procrastination MeaningProcrastination is the avoidance of doing a task which needs to be accomplished. It is the practice of doing more pleasurable things in place of less pleasurable ones, or carrying out less urgent tasks instead of more urgent ones.

Most people do not regard procrastination as a major emotional disturbance. That is because it doesn’t hurt at once. That movie you went to may have been a lot of fun but you didn’t get your term paper finished. Now you have to burn the midnight oil, do a poor job of it and hastily submit an inferior product. So your grades suffer, your career suffers. Perhaps, if you make a habit of this, you’ll even drop out of school and alter the whole direction of your life.

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Overcoming Procrastination in Three Simple Steps

Procrastination will drive you to different roads away from your destination. Every silly whim you get will drive you off into a new direction and you will forget what you are about. How can you conceivably travel from one point to another if you are going to be sidetracked every time you see something interesting along the road? If you know where you are going, and you discipline yourself to stick to the task, you are likely to reach your goal.

  1. Face Difficult Tasks: It is easier to face difficult tasks than to avoid them. Very seldom times does time simply cure a bad situation if you do nothing about it. Your dishes don’t get done because you watch television. In short, if something is difficult to do, it is easier to do it than not to do it at all.
  2. It is More Important to Do than to Do well: If you believe (as most of us have been taught) that if anything is worth doing, do it well, or if you can’t do it right, don’t do it at all. For example, if the baby doesn’t walk well, should the baby stop walking at all? Practically speaking, everything you’ve ever done you did badly at the first time. You got better only because you kept doing it badly for a long time.
  3. Breaking a Big Task into Small ones: How many times did you find yourself getting bored with what you were doing? Probably a lot of times. That is because you feel you don’t have enough time to do it. This happens because  you don’t take a big task and reduce it to a series of smaller tasks. If you did you would be able to do a great deal.

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Human Capability: Think Positive, Positive Things will Happen.

Human capability is something that’s forgotten. Humans have forgotten their capabilities. They seem to be using the word ‘Human’ only for weakness, failure etc. “I tried my level best not to commit that sin, but after all I’m a human” is our usual reply to hide our mistakes and unwillingness to improve. Humans’ capabilities are beyond any imagination. Whenever the world began, humans were definitely not capable of writing, reading or anything except thinking.Human Capability

If you want to know Humans’ capabilities, look around you! Everything you see around was once someone’s imagination. Once you think about something, you, consciously / unconsciously, start the creation process. Because thinking is the 1st level of creation. Everything you see around was first created in mind. Nothing of this was there, but our very capability of thinking made this possible. Our very capability of ‘thinking’ makes us different from other creations.

Human Capability, You become whatever you think!

Many of us are sad, unhappy and unsatisfied in our lives. It is not that life is different to them. Life is the way it is for everyone. It is for the humans what to make from it. The more you think about something, the greater are its effects. You empower the thought by thinking more. Once we are sad for something, we keep thinking about it instead of moving forward. We can sit and cry on the past’s departure or we can prepare for our future.

The choice is always ours. Many of us choose to be sad and curse their life for it. Humans out of their capabilities can create both, good and bad; happiness and sadness; joy and misery etc. It is up to us how to use our life. When we keep thinking something that makes us sad and miserable, we will obviously be sad and miserable. We are the owner of our thoughts. We are the thinkers.

Alan Watts on Time – Mystery of Time

“Time is a measure of energy, a measure of motion. And we have agreed internationally on the speed of the clock. And I want you to think about clocks and watches for a moment. We are of course slaves to them. And you will notice that your watch is a circle, and that it is calibrated, and that each minute, or second, is marked by a hairline which is made as narrow as possible, as yet to be consistent with being visible.

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And when we think of a moment of time, when we think what we mean by the word “now”; we think of the shortest possible instant that is here and gone, because that corresponds with the hairline on the watch. And as a result of this fabulous idea, we are a people who feel that we don’t have any present, because the present is instantly vanishing – it goes so quickly. It is always becoming past. And we have the sensation, therefore, of our lives as something that is constantly flowing away from us. We are constantly losing time. And so we have a sense of urgency. Time is not to be wasted. Time is money. And so, because of the tyranny of this thing, we feel that we have a past, and we know who we are in terms of our past. Nobody can ever tell you who they are, they can only tell you who they were.

And we think we also have a future. And that is terribly important, because we have a naive hope that the future is somehow going to supply what we are looking for. You see, if you live in a present that is so short that it is not really here at all, you will always feel vaguely frustrated.

Sadhguru on Love, Love is a Human Emotion

Human beings are capable of love when they are willing. Unfortunately, we want to export everything that is beautiful in our life to heaven and live wantonly on this planet. Love, joy, blissfulness – these are human possibilities.

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Love is a Simple Process

Love is not something to do with someone else. Love is never between two people. It is what happens within you, and what happens within you need not be enslaved to someone else. For 15 to 20 minutes daily, go sit with something that means nothing to you – maybe a tree, or a pebble, or a worm or an insect. After some time, you will find you can look upon it with as much love as you do your wife or husband or your mother or your child. Maybe the worm does not know this. That doesn’t matter. If you can look at everything lovingly, the whole world becomes beautiful in your experience. You realize love is not something that you do; love is the way you are.

If you are life, it is very natural to love. Every human being is capable of love but unfortunately, many have crippled themselves with all kinds of belief systems, opinions, philosophies, ideologies – everything except life.

Love is not imported from heaven

People either profess to love God or believe God loves them. The assumption is that love is a quality that needs to be imported from Heaven. But does anyone really know whether God loves or not? We bow down to whoever created this grand creation – a creation that boggles the mind. We bow down to the creator, but you don’t know whether he is love or joy or peace.

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True Incident: Heart Touching Story of Indian President, Dr. Abdul Kalam

INDIAN PRESIDENT … Dr. Abdul Kalam Says

Heart Touching Story
President of India: Dr. Abdul Kalam

“When I was a kid, my Mom cooked food for us. One night in particular when she had made dinner after a long hard day’s work, Mom placed a plate of subzi (Side Dish made up of Vegetables) and extremely burnt roti (Chapati) in front of my Dad.

I was waiting to see if anyone noticed the burnt roti. But Dad just ate his roti and asked me how was my day at school. I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I do remember I heard Mom apologizing to Dad for the burnt roti. And I’ll never forget what he said: “Honey, I love burnt roti.”

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy, good night & I asked him if he really liked his roti burnt. He wrapped me in his arms & said: “Your momma put in a long hard day at work today and  She was really tired. And besides… A burnt roti never hurts anyone but HARSH WORDS DO!” “You know beta – life is full of imperfect things & imperfect people…

I’M NOT THE BEST & AM HARDLY GOOD AT ANYTHING! I forget birthdays & anniversaries just like everyone else.
What I’ve learnt over the years is : To Accept Each Others Faults & Choose To Celebrate Relationships” Life Is Too Short To Wake Up With Regrets! Love the people who treat you right & have compassion for the ones who don’t.

Be Discontent With Yourself

Remember three things: One, you must be consciously frustrated about the life outside. We are all frustrated, but unconsciously. And whenever we are frustrated unconsciously, we only change objects of desire. But one object exchanged for another will not help you to go in. You remain outside. You change one thing for another, then for another. Because you are frustrated by object A, you substitute your desire by object B. Then you are frustrated by object B, so you go on to C. You go on changing objects because you are only unconsciously frustrated. If you become conscious, then you will not change objects — you will change direction.

The root cause is this desire to get happiness through someone else. You go on changing persons, but this direction is never changed.

When I say, ‘become consciously frustrated’, I mean know well that persons are irrelevant. Unless you change your direction in the search for happiness, nothing is going to happen. When I say, ‘be consciously frustrated’, I mean don’t be frustrated by others — be frustrated by yourself, be frustrated about yourself. Only then does the direction change.

Way To Change

We are all frustrated by everyone else. The husband is frustrated by the wife, and the wife is frustrated by the husband; the son is frustrated by the father, and the father is frustrated by the son. Everyone is frustrated by others. This is the outgoing mind. Be frustrated with yourself, and then the direction changes: you start to go within. And unless you are frustrated with yourself, there is no possibility for transformation.

The second thing to realise is that whatsoever you are, it is because of you yourself. We say, ‘I am like this because of my destiny, because of the forces of nature, because of heredity, because of environment, because of society. ‘What is important is to remember that whatsoever you are, you are responsible. Society may have played a part and even destiny and childhood also may have played a part, but ultimately, you are responsible. This feeling is the base of all religions.

So the second thing: remember, whatsoever you are — if you are sexual— you are responsible. If you are angry, if you are afraid, if fear is your chief characteristic, then you are responsible. Everything else may have played a part, but only a part and that part also can be played only because you cooperated. And if you destroy your cooperation, this very moment, you will be different. So, the second thing is to be constantly aware that whatsoever you are, you are responsible. Responsibility is the basis of all religious transformation.

And, third, remain perpetually discontent until the light is achieved. Again, that is one of the most basic qualities of a religious mind. Ordinarily, we think that a religious man is a contented man. That is nonsense. He looks contented because he has the discontent of another dimension. He looks contented. He can live in a poor house, he can live in ordinary clothes, he can live naked, or he can live under a tree. He can look contented, not because he is contented with these things, but because, really, his discontent has gone towards other things, and now he cannot be bothered with these things.

He is so discontented with the inner revolution, so discontented hoping for inner light, that he cannot bother about these things. These things have just become peripheral. Really, they don’t mean anything to him. It is not that he is contented — they don’t mean anything, they are irrelevant. They are somewhere on the periphery; he is not concerned. But he lives in deep discontent, in fiery discontent. And only that discontent can lead you inwards.

Remember, it is discontent which leads you outside. If you are not happy with your house, you can make a bigger one. If you are unhappy with your financial position, you can change it. In the outward journey, it is discontent which leads you on and on. The same is the factor in the inward journey also. Be discontented. Unless you achieve light, unless you transcend mind, be discontent, remain so — this is the third point. These three points will help but they are just ‘helps’ or aids. The central thing is meditation. Meditate and with these ‘helps’, you can achieve the inner light.

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How should one define Success?

Richness, wealth, treasure is there, and you have not claimed it yet – and, it is yours, just for the asking. You need not spread your hands anywhere before anybody. The treasure is hidden within your own heart. People go on searching everywhere else except in the heart. They can go to the Moon and to Mars; and, that journey seems to be easy. Man seems somehow to be very stubborn about going into his own heart. May be, he is afraid that he may find it there!

Psychologists say that there is a very deep-rooted fear of success in the human mind. It looks absurd when you hear for the first time that man is afraid of success, but when you ponder over it, slowly, it dawns slowly on you that it has some deep relevance. Man is afraid of success, because if he succeeds, then what? That is the fear: then what? So, in a subtle way he tries to succeed and yet creates such obstacles that he cannot succeed.

On one hand he tries to succeed; on the other hand; he disturbs his own success so the game can go on. Just think of a day when you have succeeded and all that you desired has been attained, all that you always longed for is in your hands. Then what? – that is the fear. Then, what will you do? – because, all doing is searching, all doing is desiring, all doing is possible, because there are goals which we have not attained yet. One is occupied, happily busy.

It’s deep-seated

Just think of it a moment and even in thinking you will start trembling inside: if all is fulfilled, then what? Would you like to succeed to that point? And, when you think about that you will see the point of what psychologists mean when they say there is a deep-rooted fear of success.

And, it does not happen only as far as inner success is concerned; it happens with outer success too. It almost always happens that when a person is at the last rung of succeeding, something goes wrong. And, he thinks something has gone wrong from the outside, no. He does something – he takes a wrong step, he moves in an opposite direction. He blames God and he blames fate and he blames society and others, but if you search deep down you will find that people fail only when they were just going to succeed.

There seems to be that deep fear which, at the last moment, says to them, “What are you doing? Avoid it.” It is very unconscious. They fail, and then they are busy again. That’s how people keep themselves busy; life-in and life-out they keep themselves busy. This is called the wheel, the samsara, in the East; this is the world. That’s why people don’t go into the heart, which is the closest point to go to. They go on great journeys and pilgrimages, but they don’t search within.

It is a condition

Success is a by-product; one need not think about it. And, if you think about it, you will not get it — that is a condition. Don’t think about success, because if you start thinking about success you become divided. Then, you are not totally in the work; your real mind is in the future: “How to succeed?” You have already started dreaming how you will be when you have succeeded, how you will be when you have become a Buddha – what beauties, what benedictions, what blessings will be yours. Your mind has started playing the game of greed, ambition, ego. Never think of success. Success is a natural by-product.

If you work really sincerely upon yourself, success will follow you just as your shadow follows you. Success has not to be the goal. That’s why Lu-tsu says, “Work quietly, silently, untroubled by any idea of success or failure.”

And, remember, if you think too much of success you will constantly be thinking of failure too. They come together, they come in one package. Success and failure cannot be divided from each other. If you think of success, somewhere deep down there will be a fear also. Who knows whether you are going to make it or not? You may fail. Success takes you into the future, gives you a greed game, an ego projection, ambition, and the fear also gives you a shaking, a trembling – you may fail. The possibility of failure makes you waver. And, with this wavering, with this greed, with this ambition, your work will not be quiet. Your work will become a turmoil; you will be working here and looking there. You will be walking on this road and looking somewhere far away in the sky.

Starry slip

I have heard about a Greek astrologer who was studying stars, and one night, a very starry night, he fell into a well. Because, he was watching the stars and moving about – and, he was so concerned with the stars that he forgot where he was – he moved closer and closer to a well and fell into it.

Some woman, an old woman, who used to live nearby, rushed up, hearing the sound. She looked inside the well, brought a rope, and pulled the great astrologer out. The astrologer was very thankful.

He said to the old woman, “You don’t know me but I am the royal astrologer, specially appointed by the king. My fee is very large – only very rich people can afford to enquire about their future. But, you have saved my life. You can come tomorrow to me and I will show you: I will read your hand, I will look into your birth-chart and I will interpret your stars, and your whole future will be plainly clear to you.”

The old woman started laughing. She said, “Forget all about it. You cannot see even one step ahead, that there is a well, how can you predict my future? All bullshit!”

Don’t look ahead too much; otherwise, you will miss the immediate step. Success comes, Lu-tsu says, of its own accord. Leave it to itself. This existence is a very rewarding existence, nothing goes unrewarded.

Peace of Mind: The Truth beyond Success and Failure

It does not matter to a man of awareness whether he is successful or unsuccessful, well-known or absolutely unknown, powerful or just a nobody. To a man of awareness, these dualities don’t matter at all, because awareness is the greatest treasure. When you have it, you don’t want anything else. You don’t want to become the president or prime minister of a country.

Those who pursue power suffer even in success – they live in the eternal fear that they might lose it. At first they suffered because they were not successful; now after being successful, too, they are suffering because of a feeling of insecurity. Moreover, they have no private space; everyone wants to meet with them and there are some who are engaged in the task of “overthrowing” them. The life of a successful man is not a life of peace. But in failure, too, there is no peace. For an aware person, it is all the same. Success comes and goes, and so does failure. He remains untouched and aloof.

Courtesy: Complete Well-Being

7 Types of Love You Might Experience in Your Life

Types of Love You Might Experience in Your Life

Although many people associate love with a romantic feeling, there are a few types of love you might experience in your life. The classical vision of love includes the unity of two people who fall in love, create a family and have kids. You may have already experienced some feelings similar to love, but you cannot understand without realizing what type of love it was.

1. Unrequited love

Unrequited love is going to be the most challenging one that makes you suffer and feel terrific pain. Many people you love just don’t feel the same about you that is quite heartbreaking. This love makes you stronger and more reasonable. You should learn to control your obsessive and emotional desire to get pure love with the person who doesn’t love you. Try to handle this pain and avoid focusing on this problematic feeling. Just go forward and you will have more chances to find your destiny.

2. Platonic love

This type of love doesn’t require you to feel sexual or romantic attachment to the person you adore. Platonic love can occur between friends. It’s the most common type of love because you work and cooperate with a great number of people every day. You can fall in platonic love with some beautiful and lovely person that inspires your mind, soul, and directs your attention to spiritual things.

3. Self-love

Do you find yourself a wonderful person? If not, then you might have problems with self-esteem and it’s necessary to do something about that fact. First of all, fall in love with yourself and you will have an opportunity to love another person. If you still hesitate, then take a list of paper and write down all positive and negative qualities and traits of your character. You will admit how awesome you are. Don’t be afraid to become a smug egotist. You should realize that you love yourself and deserve to be loved by someone else.

4. Lustful love

You may fall in love with a handsome man you meet every day on the way to work. You feel nothing much but passion and desire to taste those plump lips. You have just created the image for him in your mind and you don’t know any information about him and that is good enough. Do you know at least his name? I think you don’t care.

5. Pure love

You might have seen this love in films. This powerful kind of love makes you adore the person’s heart, body and soul. It’s when two lovely people lose control and feel emotional burst. Those who have experienced true love are considered the happiest people in the world. There is a belief that true love is given only once.

6. Puppy love

Everyone has experienced this love, because it usually occurs when you are a kid. This love is full of innocence. If you treat the person like a little lovely doggie, your love can be called “Puppy Love.”

7. Unattainable love

Have you ever been in love with Johny Depp? I am sure that everyone faced the crisis of this fantastic love. No matter how old is your unattainable love, you continue daydreaming about him. You realize that it’s theoretically and practically impossible to live together with your beloved star, but your rich fantasy can do nothing about your obsessive thoughts. Many actors are so perfect that you really cannot help falling in love with them.

The older you become the more types of love you experience. What kind of love have you ever experienced? What type of love is the strongest?

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